I couldn't breathe. I could hardly speak. I felt faint and like I was going to throw up. My heart pounded out of my chest. I told him to come in. I needed to finish feeding this supposed low weight baby we lovingly called "Timmers." I didn't want it to look like I was hiding anything but, word to the wise DO NOT let a social worker come in. Ask them to wait in their car until you can call someone to come over. A supportive friend, or your husband. The social worker asked a ton of questions that really had nothing to do with my boy. Again, you DO NOT have to babble on like I did thinking you are "helping." Tell them to stick to the allegations. He stayed an hour, looking me up and down, all of my children, my home, my life. All under his scrutiny now. I called Patrick after he left in near hysterics. I couldn't stop crying. Shock? Probably. Deep down I knew it was all crap. The allegation was that I was NOT FEEDING my son!! WHAT??!! That I was withholding food from him or not feeding him enough. Starving my buglet???!!! Absurd! I wanted to scream long and loud about THE SYSTEM. We were now in the Social Services System. We had a case. We had a case number. We had a case worker. Once a can of worms like this opens up there is a 90 day period where they drop by unannounced to do more interviews, bring in the county health nurse to WEIGH the baby and EDUCATE us imbeciles and gather more information. I felt totally and completely blindsided.
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That would drive me absolutely crazy.
Now I'm curious as to how you found out to not tell them anything. I would be the same way, trying to explain it to them - I think that's kind of the nature of people.
H.L. Mencken was quoted as saying
"Every normal man must be tempted at times to spit on his hands, hoist the black flag, and begin to slit throats."
It's not that I think he was a good man, or a moral man; he was a liberal, self-adoring pain-in-the-4th-point-of-contact. He had a good idea though, on the issue of liberty and the problems imposed upon it by government.
I shudder to think of how I would react to the presence of child-welfare at my door.
butrfly, I have since found out that I do not have to say anything if it doesn't involve the allegations. I answered questions about every one of my children, their pregnancies, births etc. WHY? I didn't do anything wrong,I don't know if I would have volunteered so much, ya know? Next time I won't.
I wouldn't have screamed at the SYSTEM, I would have screamed at the WOMAN.
Have you confronted her, since?
MEAN things are on the tips of my fingers. Somebody on your last post said, "Who the, what the, how the..." I feel about the same way.
What happened next?
What a nightmare! And what a nice way to heap on the mommy guilt--as if we don't all struggle enough with thinking we need to be more perfect parents!
I offer a feeble "Well, that which does not kill us..."
Is the case closed for good now?
P.S. For some reason I'm having problems publishing a comment this morning. So if this shows up 3 times--sorry!!!
I am having a hard time reading about all this and yet I can see where my faith was tested and ultimately strengthened. Some will have a hard time accepting this but God is for us and this time in our life (like all times) are for our good and His glory.
Pat, I agree with you and I'm proud of you and Carla for seeking God's glory in a ROUGH situation.
You were absolutely blindsided! I'm still fuming about that woman!
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